B is for Because
I had initially wanted to call this entry B is for Bullshit because yesterday (Mother’s Day) was a complete Bullshit day. It was a crap day for several reasons; I won’t Bore you with the details. However, after considerable reflection, I came up with Because for this blog entry.
Seek first to understand, then to be understood.
Think of a young child following his parents around all day, asking question after question. Why is the sky blue? Why do I have to eat my green beans? But why are they healthy for me? If you are a parent you might remember how exhausting that can Be. Many of us have snapped back with the ol’ “Because I said so, that’s why” kind of thing.
When we know the reason for an occurrence, action, or decision, we are more likely to get on Board with it. We eat our green beans Because they are full of vitamins which are good for the health of our Bodies, or simply Because we like the taste. The human mind is naturally curious. Where would we be if it wasn’t?
I’ve always needed to know the Because, especially when it directly affects me or those that I care about. I need things to make sense. Unfortunately, this often makes me feel as if I live in a world of crazy. People are weird, and we often do things that make no sense to others. It also means that I always questioned authority, which usually isn’t welcomed by those in authority. I’ve been called a stir-stick, a rabble-rouser. I’m ok with that. I’m never going to follow Blindly. Perhaps the person who questions; the person who seeks truth, fairness, and logic is the Bravest person in the room. I’ve put myself in the line of fire when I Believed it was for the greater good.
The thing is – I may not always go about it in the Best way.
Seek first to understand, then to be understood.
I’m thinking that I sometimes need to approach the ‘seek first to understand’ a bit more gently, and ‘then to be understood’ a bit more patiently. My Spirit Mom always told me to look for the learning in every situation. This is the lesson that I am taking away from this past weekend.
B is for Because.
Love & Light to you friends,
Perhaps it's the little bit of country in me, but I love old barns. So I was more than thrilled when a dear friend asked me to draw her horse barn. It has been renovated and it's completely lovely. Two lucky boys get to call this place home. The front area of the barn is used for relaxing and entertaining human guests. I would love to sit there sipping ice tea - complete with the smell of fresh hay - and after go for a walk in the labyrinth. Love it! This farm is a slice of paradise.
Many years ago while traveling in Wisconsin I photographed old barns all along the country roads we were travelling on. Stopping here and there - and I was pulled over by police for doing so because I seemed suspicious. Apparently the officer thought it was strange for someone to take pictures of old barns! Maybe I will dig out some of those old photos and draw one or two of those old barns.
B is for big ol' barns!
Love & Light to you my friends,
B is for Belonging
Such a simple word for a huge concept.
You belong! You really do!
Because as humans, we need to belong. To one another, to our friends and families, to our culture and country, to our world.
Belonging is primal and fundamental to our sense of happiness and well-being just like the need for food and shelter. Early in our development, as school children we wanted to fit in; to be liked and to have friends.
I remember those days and sometimes it doesn’t seem so long ago. Looking back at my life now, I can identify times when I didn’t feel that I belonged.
As a mom, and especially as a mom of special needs children, I worry that my kids have that sense of belonging. I know they struggle and feel different. Maybe that’s just part of growing up for ALL of us. Some of us just negotiated those years more gracefully.
I recently attended a Middle School talent show at which my son was performing. For weeks prior to the event I was worried that my son would be laughed at and ridiculed, I worried that he would make a fool of himself. (Fortunately, I let that feeling go before the night of the event.)
I walked in to the school auditorium that night and immediately saw so many parents and children that I knew, all there with the same nervousness as I had. The same parents that I have attended so many school functions with over the years. The same kids that I have watched grow along with my son. Some of them were there JUST for my son! They cheered him on. They made him feel special. He is special and so very brave! He belongs. He’s gonna be ok I think. >sigh<
Neighbors. Friends. Family. People, my people. I belong. I feel it.
A sense of belonging to a greater community improves your motivation, health, and happiness. When you see your connection to others, you know that all people struggle and have difficult times. You are not alone. There is comfort in that knowledge. Belonging gives you a sense of purpose and of something that is greater than yourself and will transcend your time on this earth.
So dearest friends, Are you where you belong? Do you feel it? If not, why? Are you doing what you love? Are you with the people who love and accept you for you? Are you where you need to be? Are you trying to be something that you are not?
Be true to yourself! Be your most authentic self and you will find belonging. Bring with you the lessons from this time of un-belonging. You really do belong – you just may not know it yet.
Love & Light,
Aaaaaaah... to be barefoot! To walk across the warm grass of my lawn or the cool sands along Lake Michigan with nothing on my feet. To set my piggys free from their winter bondage makes me so happy! Putting my bare feet up makes me happy too! Yes, those are my feet to the left, and they are happily enjoying the beach.
As a child, I was usually barefoot - even though we lived on a farm - AND we had horses.
In the yoga studio, I'm always barefoot.
At home, I'm usually barefoot.
Outdoors I'm usually barefoot.
At my desk, I'm often barefoot.
In the car, I'm usually barefoot. Every summer I post silly photos on Facebook of my foot hanging out the window as I drive. Of course I get lots of comments about how silly I am.
With my recent travels south, I've gotten my barefoot frame of mind on a bit earlier this year. Time to get a pedicure. Time to choose a summer color! Time to toughen up the bottoms of my feet so stones and gravel don't bother me.
Mother Nature is finally cooperating. We can be barefoot again! Hurray!
Walking barefoot so much has conditioned me to watch where I'm stepping - especially after it rains, and the worms are coming out. I detest worms! But, when you watch the ground you can find some pretty cool little treasures, and for a mixed media artist, cool little trinkets are always a bonus!
OK, ok, I'm not a barefoot weirdo. I don't promote barefoot running or have a Barefoot Pinterest Board. This is how I've always lived. If you are not a barefoot person, it's ok, I still love you. :)
8 Reasons to B barefoot (the short version)
1. Decreased impact
2. Increased muscle tone
3. Better balance
4. Stronger feet
5. Peace of mind
6. Happy happy, joy joy
7. Better posture
8. Increased circulation and blood flow
Don't be apprehensive - take your shoes off and go barefoot!
Love & Light to you,